“Confidence: How to Develop It ” by Caren Sobier

May 05 2010

I have seen a lot of very shy and reserved first year students come through my office. I see that many do not know how to approach someone in a professional setting. Some have difficulty starting up a simple conversation or are even afraid to look someone in the eye while having a conversation. Sometimes when students are new to a job and don’t know a lot of people, they may be afraid to be outgoing and seem too confident because they don’t want backlash from other coworkers. It's always a bit easier for people to come out of their shells more when they work in a nice environment where people are friendly and approachable. Unfortunately, this is not always the case and through the years, I’ve watched students as they navigate new work terrain. Watching student workers grow into confident professionals is such a joy to see. A couple of years ago, one of my student workers refused to eat lunch in the cafeteria. Instead, he wanted to eat in our break room. He made no effort to mingle, mainly because he was so shy. Slowly, I noticed that as we gave him more responsibility in the office, he seemed to build more and more confidence. Now, 2 years later, I see him around campus with friends, and more frequently participating in NYIT social events. Fulfilling work responsibilities and taking on new challenges are great ways to build your confidence. When you extend beyond your comfort zone and accomplish something that challenges you, it builds confidence. When you feel confident in what you do on a daily basis, it shows through and through, in all aspects of your life. As this is my first blog, I always like to end with a quote….“The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure.” - Sven Goran Eriksson

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